Gracias papa

It’s no mystery, Dads communicate love differently than Moms.  This is especially true for  many Latino fathers and their children.  I personally never heard the words “ I love you” from my father.  No outward emotions were shown by my stoic Dad, who was raised in a poor family of 12 siblings following the crops as field workers. For him, a tough upbringing required a hard shell surrounding his feelings at all times.

Studies show that for many men, affection is more about what they do than what they say. Their ways of communicating love can be subtle. And while to some this might seem like a weak substitute for genuine warmth, to many fathers small actions are every bit as expressive as words.

There are many ways to know that Dad cares even if he doesn’t tell you. If he’s there for the after school games in your youth, he cares.  If he sits with you at the table and shows interest in your studies, he cares.   Dad ever tell you to hold the flashlight while he  tried to find the problem?  He’s spending time with you. When he looks at you and says, “you look skinny, are you eating?”, he’s concerned. When he sees you struggling, and says, “ you can do it. I know you can”, he’s there.  As an adult, it might be, “how’s the car running, should we check the fluids?” Or that time he pulls out an old song from his youth and tells you about a memory from back in the day.  And when he comes over to your place and does an odd job or two just to help out? That’s love.

This Father’s Day, we want to thank the men who may not say it, but who show their love in myriad ways every single day.  For all you do, for all the times you sacrifice but can’t find the words, we love you Dad!

José Borrego

Attorney

Joseborregolaw.com

(916) 446-4911