Divorced Dad’s day
"I just want to be able to spend time with my kids without having to deal with my ex" he said. The reality is that after divorce, exes will be collaborating more than ever. Homework, sports, birthdays, etc. All must be arranged with juggled schedules, different parenting philosophies, and opposing priorities.
So how does the divorced Dad stay involved in their child’s life?
Communicate clearly. Its tough when emotions are involved, but staying focused on what’s best for your children and not straying into games is critical.
Mediate. Especially for newly single parents, having a professional help you communicate and come up with a plan is essential. Trained court certified counselors/mediators are expensive. But their involvement will save you conflict.
Have a schedule. Take the uncertainty out of parenting time and allow everyone to plan vacations etc.
Let it go. You’re not going to spend every holiday you want with your child. But putting your child first means understanding that having their other parent involved is just as important.
Disagree in private. Studies show that divorced kids are more hurt by parents fighting than living separately. Never bad mouth, alienate, or fight with your child’s mother in front of them.
This Father's Day, we want to thank all of those unsung guys who stuck around after the divorce. The ones who attend the dance recitals, drive to the birthday parties, support the kids emotionally, and who are present in their lives. The Dads who through patience, guts, and unwavering dedication put their kids first. Someday, you’re successful, well adjusted kids will thank you for it.
José Borrego
Attorney- Family law, Work and auto injury
Joseborregolaw.com
(916) 446-4911
